Tuesday, September 30, 2008

One Year!

Wow! ONE YEAR. Romance, conflict, adventure, friendship, tears, playfulness, fears, faith...

BECOMING "ONE"!


We've had fun. We've struggled. We've gained greater understanding of each other. We've learned to love with grace. We've learned to fight with love. We've been surrounded by loving family and friends. We've experienced God's faithfulness and transforming power that redeems our lives for His glory! We love Him and we love each other.

We celebrated our "honeymoon" as I kept calling it, with a long weekend trip to Duluth, to experience the beauty of fall in MN and "JUST BE", something we have to make ourselves do sometimes :) I kept calling it our honeymoon, and finally decided to stop correcting myself because it made us more giddy anyway, remembering who we were one year ago...



Married life together finally feels "normal", rather than another transition or path unknown. We are "all in" and can't imagine life any other way! How exciting to experience the "oneness" God created for us to know, to be able to learn more about the love He put into all His designs through it. God is a genius! Everything good comes from Him. We thank Him for giving us love to share with each other...

Thank you for being in our lives this year, seeing us through some crazy life changes! We couldn't have done it without you :) Thanks for your genuine questions, wise insights, and intentional prayers on our behalf. Thank you for keeping us accountable to have fun amidst all the things that vie for our time! Thank you for being a part of "us"!

Much love





Sunday, September 21, 2008

Exploring My Purpose

I have had a desire to help men grow ever since I can remember.
A great deal of us (men) seem to be living "under capacity".
I really desire to see men developing from bench warmers to leaders.

Recently, I have decided to explore this passion a bit more.

I have joined about eight - 18 and 19 year old Bethel college "kids" on Tuesday nights...
On thursday nights, I have two other guys coming over to go through the same material.

We are going through a tool called "Dangerous Men". It primarily deals with men's sexuality. It's intent is to help them be free from "destructive sexuality" and enjoy "healthy sexuality"... as God designed it.  This book has had a radical impact on my views of sexuality.

I am excited to see young men be able to talk about topics that have been secret for so long.
I am excited to explore this side of me that has been a bit dormant.

Many of these guys have never talked about "sexual" issues before.  They have never had a men's group where they can share their darkest secrets, and in turn find healing from them.  No wonder so many of us are living below capacity!  How can we run with so many things weighing us down?

Your prayers for me are needed.  I feel the pressure like a bloody battle.

I would love your prayers for not reduced temptation, but increased resistance.  The villian does not seem to like it when men get together, humble themselves and confess sin, and will most likely do his best to prevent it from flourishing.

Feel free to ask questions.  I am all for more discussion and less "hush-hush".

I hope y'all have as much fun as I am pursuing your own "divine sweet spot", your place to make an impact on this earth...

Thanks for reading...
-David





Wednesday, September 17, 2008

The Child In Us


Good morning everyone! A new one it is...and His compassions are new!
Currently, David, for the first time ever, is riding a motorcycle to work...I know, scary! At least that's where my mind defaults. He decided to get the permit a couple of weeks ago and his friend is generously letting him ride his bike.
Of course, we had some serious eye-to-eye moments this morning where I genuinely asked David to be smart while having fun because I want to see him again after work today all in one piece. Ah! I prayed a prayer of protection over him and he was on his way.
But the part I love most about this morning was in David's eyes as he sat on the motorcycle to rev its engine for the first time. I saw the boy in him! All inclusive of the masculine giddiness, excitement, and adrenaline. That's my man! How refreshing. "Love you babe," were our last words.
And I walked back inside the house thinking about the many times ahead that I will have to choose to put worry and fear aside in order to put my trust in the Lord on behalf of my husband. Not only that, but to realize there is a child-like spirit that lives in each one of us that allows us to delight in the fun stuff of life. So why hold back as long as reason is in mind? I'd rather just say, "Be free!" to my husband and his sometimes boyish desires. And even moreso when kids come along...plus, I want to be the "cool" wife who lets her husband play once in awhile. I mean, we can't be adults who take everything seriously, right?
So today I choose to be a woman at rest, mindful of the Lord's faithfulness and provision over all His creation, even over the fun stuff. And to all reading this, "be free" today! Ride a motorcycle, play in the dirt, laugh...a lot, love your husband or wife, and put fear aside. "It is for freedom He has set us free!"

Abby

Sunday, September 14, 2008

"You Probably Don't Want To Do That..."

"Why do we even have a porch if we hardly use it?"

I pondered this last Saturday morning. My insides were pushing me to get my day going, and see how quickly I could bang out a Saturday's worth of to-dos. Abby and I are both "doers" - we feel great after a day of accomplishment. A day of sitting usually drives us nuts. Work is play to us. We generally enjoy it. We love checking boxes, crossing off items, and seeing things through to completion. We aren't the best at rest.

So the question haunted me. "Do I just like the idea of a porch or do I really like the porch?"

So, when Abby returned home that morning with two coffee beverages that cost enough to demand our undivided enjoyment, I made up my mind that we would procrastinate our to do list, and sit for a bit on our front porch.

While we sat on our white plastic chairs, she reading, and I writing in my little black journal...
I noticed a young man walking up the center of our street. He crossed the intersection to our block and continued up the sidewalk in front of our house. He was carrying something...though from a distance I could not make out what it was, and I wanted to assume the best...

Foot traffic is not uncommon in front of our house. Three houses down on the corner is a bus stop...so many of our kind neighbors pass by daily on their individual paths. But a rainy Saturday morning at nine o'clock generally yields lower traffic numbers. So, it added a bit of strange-ness to see a young male up and motivated at this hour on a weekend.

My eyes followed him up the sidewalk towards our house, until he disappeared behind the column that keeps our porch from falling on our heads. At a normal walking pace I expected him to emerge on the other side of the column in a matter of two seconds. He did not.

Strange...

Then, he did emerge, but not on the sidewalk. He had turned ninety degrees towards the street and started walking perpendicular to the sidewalk. Four steps and he arrived at the passenger door of a light blue Dodge Intrepid parked there.

"Wow" I wondered, "Is he going to try to break into that car in broad daylight?" Abby and I knew that the car was owned by our hispanic neighbors two doors down...apparently of no relation to this weekend pedestrian.

But still wanting to believe the best in him, we watched to see if he'd prove himself.

Next thing we know, he reached out and pulled a set of keys out of the passenger door lock that must've been left there by mistake!

By now we had lost interest in our book and journal to the "reality TV" that was playing out right in front of us. Would he attempt to return the keys? Would he actually steal the car?

He slid the keys from the spot where they had spent the rainy night. Looked right, and looked left, and was satisfied that no one was watching. He was probably giddy with this Saturday morning "provision" and in his own spiritual understanding, he might have even prayed a prayer thanking God for revealing the precious key ring to him.

As he strided around the front of the car, the possession in his right hand became clear. From my small knowledge of alchohol (mostly from what Abby tells me), I would guess that his other hand grasped a bottle of Jamison Irish Whiskey. Even if my brand guess is off, it was definitely liquor, at least 1/4 empty, and containing enough liquid to leave 4 grown men quite tipsy.

I decided to do some quick math...
Misdirected Young man + Bottle + Car Keys + Surging adrenaline = Not good.

"I really think he's gonna steal that car, babe," Abby interrupted the curious silence we had both fallen into, "We should do something!". Without saying anything, I showed my agreement by rising and slowly moving towards the storm door.

Looking back on the moment, it is one of those events that makes you wonder, "How did I know what to do and say in that moment?" Most people I know don't rehearse lines to eloquently stop someone from stealing a car before their eyes.

So I opened the door just enough to lean out, and keep my white socks clean and dry on the porch floor to confidently say, "You probably don't want to do that."

Caught! More adrenaline!
And he obviously did not rehearse his lines either or the adrenaline scared it out of him, because he responded by raising his hands and saying, "Uh..I just found these keys."

"Yeah, I think they belong to my neighbor" I said. "Two doors down." as I pointed to their front steps.

I had no idea if I should go and introduce myself to him, take the keys, or the bottle, lecture him on the ten commandments, or invite him in for some coffee. In the awkwardness of the moment...I figured to let it all slide. He walked compliantly to within 20' of the neighbor's house and tossed the keys onto the middle step, kept a firm grip with his other hand, spun around and kept walking towards his original destination.

As I write, I keep thinking that the climax of this story might have been greater if we had let him steal the car.  It might have been more dramatic as well if we got a chance to hear about the pain in his life that was buried under the strong morning beverage...

Either way, we were glad for our morning porch time. Afterall, our half hour or so of stillness allowed us to have opportunities we wouldn't have had otherwise. The most obvious is the chance to open the door for grace towards this young man as he was interrupted of destructive behavior. Another opportunity is to have a story to share with our friends.

Upon telling the story, as I have four or five times now, I can't help but feel like Abby and I were a part of something bigger than ourselves. I must say, the reward of preventing a car theft sure beats checking the item, "fix dishwasher" off of a list. The latter could be accomplished by hard work, the former could only be accomplished by being available. With this type of outcome, we hope to make ourselves available quite regularly!




Thursday, September 11, 2008

Why a Theoblog?

The idea to write a blog about our lives excited us both. Our aunt, for some strange reason, brought up the idea last June, and told us to let her know when we got it going.

It intrigued us why anyone would want to know more about our marriage, and what qualities we possessed that were of reading interest...I guess we'll find out by blogging.

"Why would you want to expose your marriage on the internet?" A friend asked as I shared the blog idea with him.

"Well" I slowly proceeded, "maybe our blog can be a bit of what reality TV attempts to be. Real humans interacting, revealing their challenges and victories so that others can relate and feel normal."

We often "front" so well that we trick others around us that we are nearly "perfect" people. Vulnerability has a way of deflating that notion, and encourages others to verbalize their struggles as well. By sharing our stories, conflict, rising action, climax and resolution, more of the "reality" shows up, as we reveal our true lives. Sometimes we are in the midst of conflict, our life is not young marriage bliss. The aches and pains of life are present, yet character is emerging, and we love the process!

So instead of the typical, "How are you today?"..."Good!" question and response, we offer this blog for those who want to hear the answer to "How is it really going today?"

I also believe Abby and I will get an incredible chance to know each other through the blog. So even if our subscribers number in the single digits...it will be a new way to know each other, and who can argue with that?

Enjoy a Peek into our lives.
I am excited to know you better Abby!

You Need to Know: On Behalf of Haiti

Hey All,
It's me again, Abby. There's something on my heart that I have to tell you about. I have now seen too many photos and heard too many stories of people stranded on roofs, among bodies of dead and drowned babies, to not spread the word and maintain good conscience.

As some of you may know, I am fortunate enough to work at Feed My Starving Children, a Christian non-profit dedicated to "Feeding God's children, hungry in body and spirit". Basically, volunteers pack food specifically engineered for severely malnourished children and our mission partners send it around the world. My job is to build a relationship with each person or organization who sends us a food request, and then make it a reality by facilitating the shipping logistics and outbound processes. Whew! So, as you might imagine, the stuff I mentioned above is in front of my face everyday. But, that doesn't mean that this message is any less important for you. God has called all of us to look after the poor in some shape or form.

Jeremiah 22:16 explains, "He defended the cause of the poor and needy, and so all went well. Is that not what it means to know me?" declares the LORD, and
Proverbs 29:7 says, "The righteous care about justice for the poor, but the wicked have no such concern." It was at the heart of His ministry while on earth to care for the poor. You've all heard it before...BUT FOR REAL...WE are now His hands and feet.

Hopefully by now, amidst all the political media and attention on our upcoming elections, you have heard about the recent hurricane devastation in the Caribbean. In less than one month, Hurricane Gustav, Hanna, and Ike have all made their mark on Haiti and now Cuba. Now for months ahead, they will try to rebuild the little they had in the first place. Those who were living to survive now remain waiting for death as they are without crops for food and cannot even by reached as roads and bridges have washed away.

Feed My Starving Children has now received food requests totaling over 4 million meals to help with emergency relief. Our capable mission partners have the ability to reach people. One story I heard today from our partner, Missionary Flights International, brought hope:

They were notified of a village very near Gonaives, where mudslides have swept away many villages in their entirety. The only bridge that connects this village to any source of help was destroyed-their crops and livestock gone-and all UN teams committed elsewhere. The whole village, elders, men, women, and children had not eaten anything since Monday (4 days ago). MFI immediately prepared their plane to transport one pallet (7,128 meals) of FMSC food, and noted, "By 1 o'clock today, that village will have had their first meal in four days."

Check out http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iD1wbm5yvMQ for the video of this delivery!

Amen! From hunger to hope.

I pray that it is not only sadness that grips you, but even more, I hope that you are encouraged by the possibilities of restoration in this devastated country. Mostly, this is a call for all of us to acknowledge the existence of those outside of our realm, a.k.a. "bubble"; to feel things we are not comfortable feeling. I'm asking you to give them more than a thought, but a genuine prayer. Beyond that, to find out what YOU can do with your set of strengths and resources. I would love for us all to experience God's heart for his Haitian children. Oh, how He loves them!



First and foremost, PRAY. Only God can truly restore Haiti from the inside out. Not only will there always be the poor, but also long suffering. Beyond the physical needs of any human being, our spirit must connect with the one and only Holy Spirit who lives inside of us in order to find hope in this life. The majority of Haiti is spiritually dark. Let us pray that the mighty hand of God will move in an undeniable way, that they might come to know Him! Let us also pray for His mercy as He is an all-powerful God.

Also, GIVE. Spread the word. Tithe. Share your wealth. Live as though you see the poor.

Thanks for listening. I know the burden is not the same for everyone and we're all "serving" the Lord in different ways. If nothing else, you know more of my heart for God's children. If something more, then glory to God.

Resources/Opportunities:
As many of you know, David and I got a chance to go to Haiti through Love A Child this past spring. Because they live and do ministry in Haiti, if you are interested in a closer look at the hurricane devastation, Sherry writes a daily journal that can be found on the Love A Child website, http://www.blogger.com/www.loveachild.com. I will warn that some of the pictures within her entries from September 8, 9, and 10th are really difficult to see. It will give you plenty of warning before you scroll down the page if you would choose to not look at them.

Lastly, if you would like to donate to FMSC to help us respond to emergency food requests, there are two ways to do so. First, donate money. The funds to pay for the raw ingredients must come alongside the number of volunteers needed to pack the food for us to pull it off. The second way to help is to volunteer your time. You can donate online and sign up to pack at http://www.blogger.com/www.fmsc.org.



Much Love,
Abby

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Faith and Openness

My theme verse this past year:
Zephaniah 3:17, "The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing."


I'll be honest. I had no idea how critical and judgmental I have been all my adult life. It frustrated David early on and he voiced that, forcing me to look deeper and find the root of this tragedy. And that it is! What freedom I have found in opening my mind to the possibilites that lie under even mediocre ideas or less-than-detailed plans.


A continual process...I still naturally default to being a critical thinker, picking things apart by weeding out the things that don't fit into my idea of "great" or worthy of approval. But who is the judge of these things? What in me causes me to feel the need to approve, even of the smallest things? What if I let God "quiet me with His love" instead? What if I had grace and offered a better solution, and in the process, gave someone else the freedom to...


The freedom to think and discover and learn and grow is priceless. It promises to widen our hearts, opening it towards things we never thought it could feel or experience. I've found that David is amazing at this. Probably because he has chosen to be intentional about seeing the positive side of things, using the "yes, and..." answer instead of an immediate "no". I'm telling you, it will open your mind and set you free of legalities that only stunt greatness! Try it.


It is very much still a process and choice to keep an open mind and I am continually rewarded when I do so.

But most of all, I am grateful for a husband who helps me to grow.

Intro


Here we are. Just two people learning to live and love well, more and more as God intended, we hope. To experience romance, sadness, revelation, victory, humility, redemptive power...makes it worth this adventure. We want to worship with our lives. We desire for our love to transform us from the inside out, and then begin to transform others around us.


No couple really knows what they're getting into when they get married. And no amount of insight or sharing of personal experience can truly prepare them for what is to come. But our faith has been stirred up enough to believe that God gives us everything we need for the journey. Even when He called His disciples, giving them power and authority to cast out demons, preach the Kingdom of God, and heal the sick, he also told them to, "take nothing-no staff, no bag, no bread, no money, no extra tunic." (Luke 9) It is simply faith we must take with us on the adventure of life and love. We need faith that God is who He says He is: greater than our greatest fears and insecurities, Lover of His creation, purposeful in all His ways...He is infinite and everywhere...just up to us to acknowledge His presence, even if we need to every five seconds. We can go "all in!"

How great is our God! Welcome to the life of David and Abby Theobald...

"The greatest thing is to love and be loved in return"